The pain and suffering, a young girl feels as she transitions from her parent’s home into a marriage, a complete second life is profound. She has dreamed of a joyful, supportive life with her husband, only to find herself in an unfamiliar, cold home where she struggles to meet untoward and endless expectations. Criticised for her cooking and housekeeping, she feels like a failure, constantly striving to meet her husband’s and mother-in-law’s approval, yet falling short. The laughter and warmth she once had in her green garden with her family falls short and distant, replaced by silence and sharp remarks.
Her husband, the one she believed would be her life partner, companion grows distant and absorbed in his mother’s approval and start-ups, and other home members leaving her to bear the emotional weight of the marriage alone. When she tries to voice her hurt and heart out, Her so grown, dreamed husband dismisses and distresses her emotional feelings, deepening her sense of isolation. Then, Pregnancy and exhausted, she feels drained by the constant demands, both physical and emotional. She tries to stay strong and some attached but the whole thrust and pressure to be perfect as a wife, daughter-in-law, and woman feels unbearable. Every small failure feels magnified, and she begins to lose herself.
She longs to return to her parent’s home for comfort, but feels trapped by the expectations placed on her. The joy and green shores, she expected from motherhood is overshadowed by the hard and overwhelmed responsibilities with the sense, she is losing herself to a minute creature. Her husband’s indifference leaves her feeling abandoned, she keeps wondering.
Though overwhelmed, she holds on to a flicker of hope that she can reclaim herself and find a way forward. Despite the weight of unmet expectations, she continues to struggle, hoping that one day she will rediscover who she is and rebuild the woman she used to be.
Talking the trend in Kashmir, The too distressed girl is being sent to her parents home, who can look after her during her hard pregnancy, being return back only after being able to handle his green seedling baby with the home as well. Spending days and nights tirelessly looking after the new life with ahead as in total chaos. The parents now with two lives in their home to look after with a welcome of their daughters in-laws, with full zest and zeal, and why shouldn’t a father do so? After all, he is a father to a girl. It’s entirely the responsibility of the new mother and her old father to look after the life, regardless of whether the old father is in capacity or not. He has to make sure that her daughter’s in-laws are happy with the hospitality. Aaaahhhhhh!!!!! With this trend. And this much apathetic cycle just goes on and on. Religious leaders just being busy delivering the summons about how there are such numbers of girls who aren’t married, and our political leaders are busy showing off how they make a girl more and more independent in their era.
How women laws are flaunted by our judiciary as with the reality as women have became more and more suppressed and depressed; not only do they have to look after themselves, but they also have to look after the new lives that are born out of such turmoil. Hope, Our religious leaders pay attention to how many girls are still at their maternal homes despite getting married, An irony just all-over.
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