By: SYED TAJAMUL HUSSAIN
Feeling chained in the cages of digital atmosphere and current pandemic, a child has become more affected with all sorts of negatives vibes around. Be it is at school, society or home, child has shown extreme level of sensitivity towards every positive or negative stimulus. The home climate has become the dominant force among all the factors at which child is either nourishing head or heart with positive things or struggling to breathe an air of hope and peace. Home becomes the first school of child that preaches him to develop good morals and vibes. As it has been rightly said by the father of Indian nation M.K Gandhi as,” every home is a university and the parents are the teachers “. Such ideas tell us that it is the nature of home atmosphere, creating the child to have either bright or dull future. The home atmosphere is directly dependent upon what the fate of parenting process is.
Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. It is only through the parenting process, a child learns to withstand under both shade and sun. A parent called as child’s first teacher and should remain their best teacher throughout the life. The proper role of parent is to provide encouragement, support and access to activities that enable the child to master key developmental tasks. The success of any parenting process is not measured with the loads of food , drinks, clothing, school fees or electronic devices provided but measured with the loads of unconditional love, proper attention, value and support given thereof. Parenting is an ongoing process and it is often challenging. It is not just a cakewalk to perform positive parenting process, as it requires utmost care and management to handle the feelings and aspirations of children reared. Good parenting helps foster empathy, honesty, self-reliance, self-control, kindness, cooperation and cheerfulness.
The power of good parenting process also lies in the protecting children from developing anxiety, depression, eating disorders, anti social behaviour and drug abuse. It also helps to raise their children to become men and women of calibre, possessing value and qualities of righteousness, honesty, courage, compassion, creativity and faith. A child after receiving the smell of good parenting becomes able to produce strength of mind and a sense of responsible independence. It also helps the child exhibit optimistic and confident social behaviours. A child who has a secure relationship with parent learns to regulate emotions under stress and in difficult situations. Good parenting is more important than a good school to the academic success of a child. The positive parenting approach teaches children independence and helps develop self-esteem because the kids are active participants in their own behavioural development. Positive parenting also leads to great trust between children and parents. The primary focus of a positive approach to parenting is finding ways to communicate with your children in a positive, action-oriented way instead of a negative or harsh way. You can bring about this positivity by encouraging children to talk about their feelings and explaining to them how good behaviour choices can bring about good feelings and positive outcomes.
Any sort of mistake if happen in parenting process, will lead the life of children to come under stress and pessimistic vibes. A parenting misstep that can have lasting consequences is the overuse of negative labels and shaming. Children without positive parenting are more at risk for their own relationship troubles, depression, anxiety and aggression. Bad parenting can spell destruction for your child. Bad parents fail to respond to their child’s needs beyond the basics of shelter, food and clothing. Parents, who practise strict or rigid discipline, do not allow their child to explore their world, which often leads to a child becoming fearful, anxious or rebellious. Physical abuse, neglect, emotional abuse and sexual abuse are the most serious and damaging behaviour traits that most of us equate with bad parenting. Withdrawing affection and attention can cause a child to have low self-esteem and low self-confidence, which can result in a child not expressing their wants and needs. A child who not allowed to make decisions and who is constantly criticised, belittled and who goes through abuse is likely to have low self-esteem. Children exposed to abuse and violence is likely to become violent people. Bad parenting has lot of negative effects in the life of your child. It is therefore important for every parent to evaluate his or her parenting skills to know the effects of such parenting on the child.
It is a high time for us to take care of the parenting process for the sake of future of children. There is a need to bring positive and productive parenting to help the children building smiles and progress in their lives. Every parent need to show unconditional love, support and acceptance. They also need to show their child how to positively view obstacles and challenges that help them develop resilience and perseverance. Making a habit of practising active listening with your child can also create wonders. All that what needs to build a good and positive parenting in the way that child feels the life as a moment to enjoy and smile.
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