By: Vijay GarG
When a child is born, it is bound in relationships as soon as it is born and remains in this bond till its last breath. First of all, the child has a relationship with his mother because there is no relationship as dear as the relationship between mother and child. It is the only relationship in the world that is pure and selfless. It is said that in a relationship where there is no honesty, the relationship never meets the test of life and dies prematurely. The mother’s relationship in every human life is such that it embraces every sorrow and pain of the child in its bosom.
From the mother, the child learns to examine relationships. In the past, the bonds of a relationship were very strong and did not break until the last breath. Every relationship was filled with love, respect and a sense of belonging. Joint families were an example.
The girls of that time also petitioned their Babylonians to get married in a joint family: Ask for one and get married, I watch weddings every day.
How warm it really was in the relationships of that time. In a joint family, there was always a marriage atmosphere and the head of the household would take all the big and small decisions which were acceptable to all and no one had the courage to question that decision. But nowadays the door of relationship has become so raw that it is not known when to break it with a little stumbling block. The decisions that the head of the household now makes are not acceptable to anyone, be it a daughter or a son. Now the girls are looking for a home where there is no third party to interfere and the relationship has become so fragile that no one has any right over anyone and even if someone tries to assert their rights. He has to face despair. The present age has changed the face of relationships. The internet and social sites have widened the distance between relationships and hearts so much that they cannot be bridged even if they want to. We have come closer and farther away. In the past, correspondence was sought only through correspondence. The housewife, siblings, and the bridegroom longed for the letter.
When the bell of the postman’s bicycle rang in the street, this longing turned into love. When the newlyweds read the letter written by their fisherman, her feet did not seem to be on the ground and she felt herself flying in the amber.
After reading the news of Mahi’s arrival in the letter, his wishes were not taken care of. Her beauty began to fade and she was ashamed to look at herself in the mirror. Then she would feel the hours of reunion she had been eagerly awaiting. Nowadays these beautiful moments seem to have been blown away. Now there is no waiting for a postman to bring a letter and no waiting for the right marriage to be arranged with the fisherman. Now every relationship is based solely on selfishness. Nowadays no child sleeps listening to the stories of kings and queens from their grandparents and no one walks on the path shown by them.
The feeling of love and respect for the elderly in the home is waning and it is preferred to keep them in the care home as they are considered useless at home. In the race to earn money, parents do not have time for their children due to which the children are moving away from their love and rituals. Instead of sitting next to their parents, children have become so accustomed to mobile phones, video games, clubs, and bars that they have no understanding of any relationship. Is it pointless to expect young people to have social relationships? The situation in the family has deteriorated to the point that boys have to listen to their parents, and girls are left to fend for themselves. What parents want to explain to their children is far from perfect. In the old days, if someone was angry with someone, they would wait to meet him and when they did, they would be relieved, but by the time the wait for meeting was over, the anger had cooled down. Was Now when someone gets angry at someone’s talk, he doesn’t hesitate to start insulting them by cursing on his mobile. Tolerance is running out among people today. A person without tolerance always loses his loved ones and by the time he understands how to maintain relationships, these relationships have gone too far from him.
Author is Former Principal Govt Girl’s senior secondary school mhr